More Slowly Adjusting

Been hanging out with him even more. And, I'm slowly slowly accepting the two of us. It's still bad that I feel this way, but I'm warming up to the idea. I do have to say that he wants to treat me really well. I mean, I mention something and he's like, let's do that. I feel bad that I didn't invite him to do this hike I did with other friends this weekend. I was gone all day, and said we could hang out after the hike. Only, the hike took longer,and then we went to eat, and I was so tired afterward, so I had to cancel. He was so understanding about it...I didn't even have to cancel, he just offered. When we are alone, I'm good. But when we are out in public, I just clamp up. And, he puts up with it!

Slowly Adjusting

I'm very slowly adjusting...Part of me thinks I need to just jump; Make it public, change the fb status or something. Part of me is still shy and hesitant, I still want to hide him and the fact we're together. I think there's no denying we're together, but it's just so bad I still feel the need to hide us. I have been slowly warming to the idea, but as a friend pointed out...it's not good to feel this way. I know it, i've always known it. Even if I can get past the hesitation now, I think these things will come out later.

The 40 Questions to Ask a New Guy

A gf of mine asked if I did the 40 Questions with him. What is that? ...I said. Ohh...that would have been good to know.... I must blog about this. The reasons to ask are obvious, I think. I have always had some version of this to ask, but I think there is utility in presenting it as "here are my 40 questions" becomes a bit of a game. Of course, what the answers mean depends on each person. And, it's up to you to ask the follow up questions of how long ago, frequency, etc. Are any really deal breakers? If someone has done the worst but proclaims "reform", I'd probably melt and think awe, but he want's to change.... is that okay? Especially if someone will admit to some of these things, could I really hold it against him?

So, these are the "40 questions" to ask every new guy. If nothing else it's a good way to get to know someone, his past.

currently married, been married?
last relationship,
longest relationship,
shortest relationship,
long distance relationship,
friends with benefits (refers to long term),
casual hook ups,
cheated on a gf,
multiple cheating,
one night stand,
how long/typical wait before sex,
sex with married person,
minor
animals,
objects, fetishes, other extreme practices
multiple people,
multiple people and objects,
in the butt
incorporation of violence; s& m
drug use; drugs and sex (what kinds),
alcohol consumption level,
pay for sex,
another man,
kiss etc. another a man,
number of partners; rate/estimate partners per year for last 3 years
self stimulation/gratification
regular physical check ups,
STDs/diseases,
ever unprotected sex,
how often unprotected sex,
do you have children
get a girl pregnant/abortion,
forced a girl to do something she didn't want,
persuaded a girl to do something she didn't want,
did something with a girl you regret/not proud of.

Ok, there are only 35...so I need 5 more...If you can think of others, send them my way and I'll add them.