It's Just EMail!

Through eharmony I'm emailing a doctor, another R-4. I feel slightly bad because I am not detached from J3. I feel bad for R4, not J3. I feel like I need to fully disclose to him--there is someone else, and that if I suddenly drop you that's the reason why; sorry no hard feelings pal. I know I'm entitled to keep my options open, but it just seems unfair to R-4 even though we are just emailing.