Update Part 3

I'm slowly adjusting to the idea of dating/being with my friend. There are just so many comparisons I make with the last friend-to-more relationship. I mean, then it worked for a while, but I also think that the friendship part masked that the relationship was too friend-like. It's just so contrary to how I've been conceptualizing how to find true love. I just imagined meeting, dating and being completely enamored. Here, it's like, we've been friends for a year or two, and then "suddenly" he's interested? Just don't trust it. But, we weren't really friends, more like acquaintances, until more recently. And, I can't even remember when he and I first met...that's how unmemorable it was. I do remember seeing him a couple times before meeting him, and then finally remembering who he was. I also remember thinking he was odd, harmless but odd. Ugh! and now look at him and me...together. Ugh!

Friend update part 2

I'm still "hanging out" with this friend. I'm super confused, but he is just so wonderfully patient with me. I really want to hide this, keep it hidden, but I feel this obligation to disclose, at least to my blog friends. The fact that he likes me and treats me well, so far, is so different from what I've experienced.

Dune Buggying

A friend and her bf, invited me to go dune buggy-ing with another friend they wanted me to meet. Actually, the four of us had dinner the other night, and at dinner discussed going on an off-roading adventure. We went last night, Mon night, and it was super cool and fun. It was cold since there are no windows or doors, and we rode on the road before getting to the off-road. The guy was nice, polilte etc. Great way to spend a Mon night! As for the guy...it's just so hard to tell. I mean, we rode together, and he was nice enough. But there really wasn't much in common. I mean...dune buggying who does that?...it's a whole new world for me..these people who ride the trails. As interesting as that was, and as appreciateive as I was, there wasn't a whole lot in common.

Meanwhile, I'm still hanging out with my "friend". Don't quite know why...but I'm trying really hard to be open minded. On a certain objective level, I recognize the things we have in common. But, I can't get over this bias/prejudice/what not I have against him. I even told him this, and I thought that was funny.

Friend update

I'm very torn as to whether to go out with this friend of mine. Actually, we are going out on a date tomorrow, but I'm very torn whether to let this go anywhere. Actually, well....I'm very torn on whether to let it continue any further. Actually...

On the one hand, objectively, he has the general qualities that I've been looking for. But on the other hand, he's just not "my type". Okay...it's the superficial side of me. Okay! I mean, just how important is that? I talk the talk, but can I walk the walk?

There has been yet another guy I've been communicating with via match email. He asked me to call and left his number. My response was to give him my number. Days later he texts me. I text back: "I don't like to text". This happened this morning. Not sure if I'll hear from him again. Aside from that faux pas I thought he was rather interesting. Oh well.

A new date come and gone

Had a first date with I2. It all happened rather fast. After a couple email exchanges, I2 called and we arranged to meet. Funny thing was that he never got my name. Never gave it to him in an email. I said it over the phone but he never asked to specify. When I met him tonight, he acknowledged that he never got my name, but still he never really asked for it.

Okay, so I'm walking toward the restaurant where we are to meet. I see a guy sitting at the outside tables. He's casually waiting. I walk closer and closer, looking at him. Usually at this point, if it's the right person, there's a nod, look of acknowledgment. There was nothing from him though he stared right at me. I initiated, approached, and asked if he was Scott...oops...not his name...for some reason the name Scott was on my mind. I instantly knew he was not interested. And me, I wasn't interested either.

I mean, he actually is very decent on attractiveness. He's perhaps a bit skinny, but otherwise good looking. We took a while to settle down at a place, the restaurant/bar we wanted was crowded, so we opted for the cafe across the way. We ordered beers (he paid!) and chatted. Conversation was polite enough, but I could just tell there wasn't any spark on his end. I was eying his watch...1/2 hour....then 45 min...then I said I was meeting a friend after wards so I said he didn't have to wait for me. We said good to meet, shook hands and parted ways.

A friend

I played tennis with a friend today. We played, we hung out, he said he would like to date me. The crazy thing is I couldn't immediately say no. I can't exactly say yes. If I had been interested in him, I would have said/done something a long time ago. I always had my suspicions about him, but as long as nothing was said, I was safe. Now he has said something. After the declaration, I sat and talked it out with him for hours. I found myself surprisingly open with him. I mean, even if everything else I want in a guy isn't there, but I am open with him, and he makes me feel comfortable like that.... Isn't that one of the most important things? I can't readily dismiss him although every logical side me is like, come on, you can't date him. But I feel like he would be the type of guy who would give me every bit of attention, and for some reason I'm craving that right now.

I don't know....

RH1 showed up coming from his sisters place nearby wearing a fleece jacket and shorts. Not so bad, as I'm a casual girl. I was casual too. He looked like his photo, so within acceptable range. We chatted through dinner, not so bad. He likes current events, can keep a good conversation, movies, the typical things, no red flags, no sparks either. We went to Islands, I had a chicken burger and he a regular burger. Through the conversation I realized that he's not as active/adventurous as me. He's tall/skinny, looks in good shape. But his idea of exercise is walking. I was coming from the mud run, so not the same. He does seem to walk a lot, and goes out of his way to walk. Like, I drove him to his car and he had parked 1/2 mile away. I parked in the nearby lot. He parked a 10 min walk away...to avoid parking fee? I'm all for free parking but even I have my limits.

Okay, so here's the thing. The check came. At the end, he picks it up and says "how should we do this?" I said "we can split it". What was I going to say? Next time I'm going to say "if you think this is a date you should pay, but if it's not a date we can split." Can I say that next time?

Also, as I said, I gave him a ride to his car. Even with validation, the parking fee was $2. Not that he should have offered to pay, but he should have offered. It just didn't go over well with me coming from the split of the bill.

I really don't want to be one of those snob girls who judge on superficial things like that, but really, come one! How old are you? Don't you know by now? The bill was $21 total. not a whole lot.

Although he could hold a good conversation, he made me split the bill and he's obviously got no game. If the opportunity arises, I will share this with him. Do I see him again (assuming he asks)?

RH1...spoke with him on the phone. We have plans for Sat night. I'm so tired of this. I mean, he didn't have a plan...he was like ...whatever you want to do is fine. I know that's fine, but I want a little planning, take charge. Actually, his idea was to go to some ice cream shop far away from both of us. Travel 30 min to get ice cream? How is it someone can look so promising on paper, but then just disappoint? Hopefully he will be better in person.

Oh, and I know...how lame that our first meeting is Sat night. I'm lame for being free. He's lame for being free and suggesting a Sat night for our first meeting. He must be new.

Expectations

I'm back on match.com and have been communicating with one guy...RH1...Okay, so when I email I don't give my name out right away. And then when RH1 asked for my name, I said it was "X". My name is "XY"...so I figure if I just say "X" it's good enough. But, RH1 calls and leaves me a message just now, and says "hi XY...this is RH1 from match...etc" How did he know my full name? unless he has googled me! I didn't like his phone voice.

Then, there's this other that I find myself pursuing...He winked at me. I waited days and winked back...then when he didn't respond, I imd him, and have now emailed.