Fourth Date

The plan was to play pool, but that fizzled and we ended up getting Korean BBQ. Always a good choice, except for feeling way overstuffed afterwards. There's an understanding, an energy flow between us which is good. He is interested in me, so that is nice. And when we are together, it is nice and pleasant and interesting; there is good conversation. But there's a but...can't quite pinpoint what it is; there's some reservation on my part. Is it because I'm deliberately taking it slow?

Third Date

We met, saw Duplicity, had dinner. Very normal. The plans were rushed/last minute because of his schedule....I basically said, Sunday...give me a call when you are free (he had to work). He calls at 4:45 (well, okay, he called earlier, but I didn't see the message for over an hour) and we caught the 5:15 show. The point is that it was all very rushed, last minute. But, it worked out. He's still eager beaver. It's odd to me. We talked, it was fun interesting. He seemed interested in knowing about me...I think that is what is strange the interest, attention. But it was more normal in a good way.

Second Date

Dinner tonight after work not the most ideal relaxing takes effort but want to have fun. But, all in all it went well. It's just that he's so interested. The more "i don't really care" attitude. Some looks I'm like "oh", then other looks it's more like "ohhh", then others it's "uhho" or "eh". There are differences....not sure what yet what they mean.

First Date

Just back from my first date with IE15. He's physically not my type. How important is that? He made me laugh, kept up with my sense of humor, and was trying to impress me. But, he's not physically my type, though he's not unattractive. Ohhh...it's so hard. And, his background is not the conventional, high school, college, work, grad degree etc that I'm used to. He went to college 10 years after, which in many ways shows so much more character. But, it's just not what I'm used to. His current job is more or less "professional". But, sometimes I wonder if some men are attracted just because of my "professional" degree and they think I'm smart. I get the vibe that the interest is more in the pursuing of the smart girl to prove his own ability. Like going after the pretty girl just to see if he can. Am I reading too far into it? Probably. I guess the bottom line is that I don't see him as my conventional type. He wants to see me again and I said yes.

When I first saw him, my suspicions were confirmed. I didn't quite remember what he looked liked; it'd been 2 weeks. That "first" impression was, yeah, he's not my type. When we met, he wore a blazer, and came across much more OC conservative. But tonight he wore tshirt, jeans, large belt buckle, front of shirt tucked behind the buckle. So not my conventional type.

I had a brief conversation with H15 on the phone in my car while on the way to dinner with a friend. It was enjoyable, all the more making me look forward to seeing him on Sunday. :) Agh, the pressure, expectations. What if I'm not what he remembers, what if he's not what I remembered?!

Third conversation with H15 was good, honestly. About two hours later, I had to end the talking because it was getting late. It was engaging, not banter. So it was interesting, not playful. Different than other "fun" conversations. So...off to a promising start. Trying not to get too carried away. Been here before, only to have the euphoria wear off rapidly. I know, I know, just enjoy the process. Aaagh!

The guy who I met at the mixer... H15.... I really like the beginning phase when you don't know the guy. He is perfect because I know so little about him. In my head, he is funny, active, thoughtful, a thinker, the romantic lead. He skis and scubas. How perfect. Then, the first conversation, and a bit of reality sets in. Then the second conversation, and more reality sets in. Oh, I want the day dreamer fantasy to continue. But, that will have to come to an end. It just does. I know, it's much too early to be skeptical. Given my recent history, I must keep an open mind; I'm taking it slow, cautiously and not expecting anything. We're supposed to go out, but he needs to get back to me. Scheduling difficulties.

Meeting someone new is the best part. You get to imagine the perfect man, perfect conversations, activities, romantic moments..... It's the best when you don't have any other experience to the contrary. I think I'll just keep looking for the first date.

Mixering It Up

I went to a singles social mixer on Saturday. Two boys asked for my number. The short one was in an interesting line of work, but it was a turnoff when he "work-dropped", you know, like name-drop but work related. Like, he would casually talk about how he has his own business, etc. The short one texted me the next day, said he enjoyed our conversation. It was a bit of dilemma as to what to do. But, if I stick to the goal, I would have to say pass. So I texted back and said, "you were interesting too, but I'm not interested in dating." He writes back, says that's fine, he doesn't want to date too, just be friends. (for real?, real? p-lease) Anyhow, my other "rule" is that you don't text someone to get to know them. You don't text someone to ask them out. It shows either weakness or laziness/disinterestedness. Both, are not good. Giving the benefit of the doubt, I texted him back the one time. Really don't feel like I owe a reply text describing how the rest of my weekend went.

The tall one was more normal. He told me what he did, don't really remember. It was normal, so that's as good sign. Not sure if he's "professional" or what. Education? don't know. Name? totally forgot. He called tonight (see, normal), but it's late so I'm waiting to call back tomorrow. Now I know his name too.