Friends and Others

A friend invited me out to a unique event tomorrow. Normally, this wouldn't go onto this blog, but I get the vibe with him. I mean, definitely, he wouldn't invite me if I weren't single and available. Since we've been friends for years, he should know there's no possibility, but I've been through that one before.

R9 called me tonight and wanted to know if I was interested in seeing some art exhibit. I waffled because I really wasn't interested in this particular exhibit (been there before) Of course, I expressed this to him, and he was like, "you don't have to go if you don't want to." "Of course I want to go, I'm not doing anything else."

Communication Ettiquette-Text Messaging

D2, for whatever reason, has been texting me. So this communication exchange isn't totally out of the blue. All this is via text msg:

On 8/18; D2: This is [D2]. Busy?; On 8/19; Me: Yes.
On 8/21; D2: Busy?; Me: Not really; D2: How have you been? I am completely bored, although I realize it's not sexy to say that.; D2: You wrote you're not busy, but you're not replying. Am I missing something here because that makes no sense to me.; D2: You're not busy, but you don't want to chat. Am I that uninteresting? D2: And if you don't want to chat, why wouldn't you just say you don't want to chat?
Me: Im not busy but dont like text chat. Its late. I dont like pointless chat. This took took long to write. Am very annoyed right [now]. You asked. Dont mean to be rude.

D2: Not rude at all. That is all I ever expect from anybody. An honest and straightforward answer. That was the nicest thing you could have done for me. D2: Sorry if I annoyed you. I can't read minds though. If you don't like texts, why don't you just say so? D2: Anyway, thank you for taking the time to respond. Just be honest though. It is never rude to be honest. D2: Good night and I won't text you to have long conversations anymore. Good night.

I'm amazed that my tell 'em straight-out hasn't gotten me in trouble. Mostly it's been appreciated (at least what they tell me). Now, why is it so hard to understand that not everyone prefers texting as a first means of communication? I've reached the point where I like email because I can type fast. Maybe if I got as fast at texting, I'd feel the same way. But as it is, it takes me really long to compose a sentence, so I don't like it. Bottom line, why can't guys just get it...texting is not an appropriate means of communication until it's been approved. Pick up the phone!! (not that i'm interested, and honestly at this point, I am considering demoting D2 from the friends list)

A weekend without

This weekend was without boys, and it was a needed break. F11 seemed to take my suggestion that he post better photos of himself online pretty well. I almost wanted to say we could be friends, but I just didn't think that was realistic. But seriously, he was normal, like me and I could see him in my circle of friends. R9 is still around or in the background but nothing new or exciting is going on with him. As I said, this weekend I needed a break.

F11

F11 has been so good to me. He's exactly what you want, someone attentive, someone who calls. He called, left message. I returned call, left message. Finally we spoke on the phone. We chatted small talk. I said I had to go because the chatting was going no where and I'd rather blog and watch the olympics than chat about useless topics. As you can predict, when I said I had to go, he asked if I was interested in doing something this weekend. At first I was like, "okay, we'll see..." Then after a few pauses, I knew I had to be clear and said "I had a great time, etc etc...but...as far as the dating thing...feeling the 'it'...I wasn't sure it was there." I hope it wasn't rude. I didn't mean it to be. Sorry!!

None

Last weekend was so busy overload that I have no interest in finding date for this weekend. Maybe something will come up, but so far, nothing.

I've been busy...

I've been busy with the boyz this weekend....too much so and I'm tired...of it all.

Saturday, I had a first meeting/date with P12; dim sum lunch. Afterwards we walked around, mostly because I had time to kill and didn't want to go home. Actually...to be honest and fair, he wasn't so bad. In general, he's physically my type. Was a bit on the quiet side, but not overly so. I can't say that there were sparks, but...it wasn't dullsville. He's interested; wants to get together next weekend.

Sunday, F11 took me kayaking near where he lives. After about an hour, we then biked to get lunch. This was actually really fun for me because it was active and I haven't done any biking or kayaking in a long time. It was such a beautiful day, soaking up the sun, relaxing, zoning...The problem is that I don't feel it. Despite the active "date" he gave me flowers at the end, which is really nice. I just don't feel it!

I had to rush away from F11 because I had to meet W13 for coffee, a first meeting. I felt so bad that I had to call back W13 to confirm plans while I was at F10's place. I ended up texting, but it felt strange nevertheless. I didn't cut the date short with F10, but didn't linger around either. As I was leaving F10's, I called W13 to finalize plans. I rushed home, refreshed and then headed out to meet W13. I had no energy or enthusiasm and there was no connection.

Planning

9R is out of town this weekend, so there're no expectation there. Instead, I'm making plans with others! Making plans for Sat afternoon, and Sun afternoon. And, I'm supposed to call F11 back. Oh, and D2 texted me. You have to refer back to January. I responded, but not sure if it'll go beyond that.

The Gym

More gym activity. I'm keeping my eyes out these days. They say the gym is a pick up spot, but I've never really experienced it. Today, there was a man who was helping a 14 yr old boy work out, perhaps his son...? At one point, as I glance in his direction, I see him smile really large in my direction. It was so surprising that I assumed he was saying hello to someone behind me....but I'm not so sure...which is why I'm writing about this. He was actually fairly good looking, for a bald guy.

An older, shorter man approaches me and asks about yoga. Minutes before, we made eye contact, very briefly as I was walking to the drinking fountain. He noticed my yoga mat roll next to me (I was working at the equipment while waiting for class) and starts asking banal questions about this yoga class. I politely respond and feign interest, starting a short conversation. It doesn't go any farther, but really, did he really need to ask me whether the yoga class is open to beginners?

I'm learning to enjoy this attention because some day it won't happen any more.

Back Already?

It started odd...He left me a message on where to meet for dinner. [What?! you're not picking me up?] I called back to confirm and ask if he minded to pick me up. [Does that sound bitchy? But, come on!] He said let's meet there. [Huh? what am I missing?] But then, two seconds later he calls and said he didn't mind to pick me up. [No, that's okay...but only if you're sure it's not out of your way...then okay] But after that, it all went well and really normal. Had dinner, went for yogurt (really good), and then drinks. He's got a busy weekend, so do I, so we didn't stay out too late. I got a satisfactory good-bye:).