Updates

J3 is back in the picture partially....he continues to email me wanting to get together, saying he misses me, but so far has NOT apologized. He actually called and left a message too.

Guy from November - "O"- called for lunch on Fri and we met up. (We had met, but never got together even though I thought there was mutual interest.) After the lunch, I was not sure if he belongs on this blog or if he was just looking to network. I'm confused. Really, I don't have time to ponder that one.

There are a couple residuals from match.com but I don't have any expectations or care....okay I do. Haven't met up with any yet. I'm at the phone call stage with U7. So far, he's attentive, which is nice for a change.

Lunch with O6

Yeah!! I'm back in the game and had a lunch date with O6. That is about as far as the "yeah" goes though. Shortly after sitting down for lunch, he asks about the match experience. That somehow segued into him sharing his opinion on how he dislikes the argumentative woman, the woman who just goes on and on and just can't seem to keep quiet. You know, those girls who dare to disagree agree with their guy, and won't just chill. You know, the lawyer types who like to argue a lot.

I think some of you would be disappointed because I was very cool and was chill. In response, I said that I can get very argumentative when the person I am speaking with is stupid or saying stupid things. I can do it, but I don't like arguing. He didn't get it.

I also tried to tell him that it didn't leave me the best impression when it took so long between the time we first had contact and our first meeting. Even after I explained to him my connection to the legal world, he never inquired any further about me and my life.

Thoughts?

Another reason I like meeting men online is because if it doesn't work out, you just say no and move on. Meeting someone from an activity groups is tricky. Supposedly it's ideal, right? But, how do you go about converting the friend? How do you minimize the awkwardness of transitioning to dating... and the reverse, of when you aren't interested, and need to go back to being just friends? With the online guys, there's no interest, and you just move on. With someone you know, there are these undefined rules of behavior, right? I really should not make it so complicated because it's done all the time. I am always surprised to learn about who's-dated-who within the group, but should not be.

Yes, there is someone in particular that I may have a little crush on. We had an enjoyable talk after our activity, and he hugged me goodbye. Well, okay, he hugs everyone goodbye, but still!

Oh, and then I have this fear concerning me, and my pattern of behavior. That, I rush into liking someone and then get bored and move on.

No New Dates and It's NOT Okay

So, it's been a month abouts, since I had a real date (with J3). I am not feeling as "desperate" as I would imagine, since it has been busy. But, I do feel the pressure to be out there and working on this. My online accounts have expired or will soon expire, and I'm tired of them. But, then I'll have to find a new way to meet people. I should force myself to do the group activities, but keep on saying that.

Here are some brief updates, not really noteworthy, but... J3 continues to email me and/or text me. They're short messages or comments, not even questions. I haven't replied to the text msgs. If email, I reply, but keep it short. For example, if he asked "what you doing?", I write back "working..busy". I feel that is keeping in line with my principles of being courteous at all times.

O6 emailed yesterday and said he wanted to meet up. I would have given him up entirely, but have nothing going on today, so emailed and said we could get lunch. We'll see if he gets the message in time or otherwise makes this happen. He really hasn't demonstrated much interest.

This guy I met last November! texted me again. I first wrote, "you never called". Then, I wrote "I find text conversations ANNOYING". I don't think he got the hint.