Just Lunch

In my effort to trying something new, I contacted Its Just Lunch. They advertise heavily in the airline, and other corporate type magazines. I've known of a couple people who have tried it, one with success, one without.

One year, 14 dates-$2200; 6 months, 8 dates-$1700. The number of dates is the minimum, there may be more depending. If you meet someone, you can hold your membership for up to a year.

I was told that they had 40 potential matches for a recent client (woman). There are 10,000 members (US wide). I would meet with her, and she sets up the first 2 dates. In the meantime, I work with the dating director. My guess is that the dating director has more experience, because she is new having been with them for 6 months only. Every member works with a dating director. She and the directors meet every morning to go over potential matches. They discuss members and matching all the time.

She wanted to set up the initial interview/meeting. She asked if I was available tomorrow. I said it was a busy week, what about Thurs. She said, she doesn't book out, meaning meetings can only be set for the next day. But, for me she'll make the exception and I have an appointment on Thurs.

I know the hard sell when I see it. Does it matter? Is it worth it?

I'm soliciting ideas, suggestions. Do I try again speed dating, organized singles parties, meet-up groups, activity groups, higher end dating services, explicit fb messages, or what? Suggestions anyone? Need to expand the possibilities.

Spring is Here

Since Spring is here, and Spring is the season of "new", I'm going to "start over". I've been debating whether to go back to match, eharm and the like. I feel like I tried, and really tried with an open mind and go-get-em attitude but with no results. I can't go back to them. It's just so unappealing. So, in the spirit of Spring, I want to start fresh. That means, a whole new numbering system. I'm starting at "A" instead of "1" or something. Maybe I should use roman numerals, but that won't work since I couldn't get past 5. I'd use characters, but how does that work here.


What can I do that I haven't tried before. I'm a big believer in trying something new, mixing it up, force myself outside the box. Since the old way didn't work, I need to find a new way...if for no other reason than just because. So... What should I do to meet a man? Any suggestions? I'm totally open (within reason so I'm not totally open, but please throw your ideas out there:) ... a call out to cyberspace (i.e. my friends).

O-kay

I'm back and eager to blog. All through the "date" I was thinking what to blog about. What does that say about the "date"?!

He looked sort of how I remembered. He's normal, okay looking but not like particularly striking. I noticed he has narrow set eyes, and was slightly older than I remembered. Am I becoming so superficial? Have I always been but never owned up to it? Was 17 so interesting only because he was so attractive?

We decided on sushi and dinner was normal enough. Not particularly engaging, but not boring either. He's been in the US/CA for 12 years only, so there was always some interest on my part in learning his perspective...those are the things that interest me. He's polite, nice, not awkward.

We watched Alice...I didn't care for it. We both thought it was going to be more adult. After the movie he asked if it was a book or something. I laughed a bit, because such comments would be such an automatic deal killer but, given he didn't grow up here, I could overlook the remark. We walked to my car, commented more about the movie, then he said goodbye, quick hug and said to call if I were interested in hiking sometime. So, I don't think there was much interest.

I'm back to my "normal" self, the excitement has left, the anticipation has been replaced by reality. I'm not disappointed. I'm good. I was impressed by his good manners. Just all the little things like opening the door, picking up the check, walking to my car, all those little things were spot on. I probably should invite him on some hikes.

5 Min

I have 5 minutes to write this because I have to leave and meet S18 at 6:30p.m. I felt the need to blog and "come clean". I have really been looking forward to this meeting all week long. Like really. All week, I've been anxious and just feeling it. The rational side says: these feelings are just spring fever. it has nothing to do with S18... you don't know him, and even, from what you do know of him, he's not a serious potential...go have fun...keep and open mind and so forth. So, I am going, keeping an open mind. There is such a strong desire for something special to happen....