Slowly

I attended a social mixer on a boat tonight with a new group. There was this guy who was truly attractive. Before you get excited for me, he was way too young, showed no interest, and way too attractive, if that makes any sense, let me explain. What I wanted to share was our conversation about LA vs OC. He was saying that it was really hard to meet people in LA, whereas in OC he clicked with the people there. My theory was that he was so "clean cut" looking that he completely stood out in the hip/trendy LA scene. Whereas, OC has many along the lines of his "look". Although he says he's open and non-judgmental, that doesn't mean others are to him. I was surprised at how judgmental I became. How, my impressions were formed based solely on his "clean cut"/attractive look.

It's All My Fault

It's really my fault. I'm to blame because I gave J3 another chance. Yes, J3...he's still been lurking in the background. I agreed to meet J3 on Sunday. At first he wanted to take me to a movie in his area. I said no, he should come to my area. He agreed, and we eventually decided on Sunday at 11:30 a.m. On Saturday, he leaves me a message (I missed his call) saying his plans canceled and wanted to meet up Saturday morning. I texted him, saying "Sorry today i cant meet. See you tomorrow" (exact quote, punctuation and everything.) Sunday, I check my phone at 10:30-ish a.m. My phone had been on silent and I was watching a movie in the morning. First text: (7:11a.m.) is it okay if I get there 10ish? Second text: (8:07am) is that ok. Third text: (8:20am) can you confirm. Fourth text: (at 10:23 am) I am taking your silence as a flake. Would have been nice to confirm with me so I am not sitting around. The voice message: he acknowledged that he realized my phone was off but said that he had not heard back from me so assumed I was flaking.

I called at about 10:30am, said my phone was off, I'm expecting him at 11:30, let me know if he was still coming. He called back while I was in the shower and left a message: he thought I was flaking so he made plans with his ex-girlfriend because 9 out of 10 times when you can't reach someone before hand they are a flake. He'll call again so we can reschedule. I kid you not, he "lightly" dropped that tidbit.

I called back and left a message, and should have reeled at him with expletives, but did not. I did firmly and clearly say he was in the wrong..."what part of see you tomorrow means I'm flaking?" He texted back: "Okay. Sorry to anger you again. Have a nice day." I emailed the same. This time, I said don't email, don't call. And, this time I mean it. Really. Really.

New Considerations

I am trying to find new ways to make a love connection. Rather than continue with the on-line options, I am exploring other more traditional match-making services. They boast higher success rates, and the ability to be more selective. The catch, of course, is money. They charge a lot, and typically the price includes a limited number of dates. I sat through a 2 hour consultation this evening (think time share presentation style) and at the end, if I enrolled, at the lowest level, I would get 6 dates. The theory behind it is that they pre-screen so you are not dating to see if someone meets your criteria. The dates they come up with meet your criteria, leaving you focus on the "it" factor.

Crazyblinddate.com

I just got back from my first crazyblinddate.com date with "X8". This is a new dating thing where you don't see a picture, and no communicating before hand. On Saturday, I got an email saying the date was set up for Sunday evening. I got a text msg half hour before hand, and could communicate with X8 to make sure he showed. We were both surprised that this worked. I was relieved he didn't seem "crazy" (but what would that look like anyhow?). He was short (about my height) and normal build. He kept on talking about the process; I mean, on and on about the process of meeting through crazyblinddate. He was never able to transition into date mode, i.e., find out about me, share about him. Normally, I would feel compelled to ask the questions and find out all about him. But, instead, I let him take the lead, which lead to nowhere. I also filled time talking about nothing, like the beverly center, how it's changed, and century city, how it's changed, and curling irons (which is his business). Maybe I shouldn't do that because that isn't really me, which may have put him off...It was pleasant, but no connection, love or otherwise.

Again, Nothing

There's so nothing going on, in case any of you are wondering. I continue to play this ridiculous game with J3 of calling and emailing but never really talking. I need help!